Attachment Issues and the Adopted Child


For many months before we adopted our two kids from Russia we got to watch their brief videos of them talking and playing.  We also had photos hung on our refrigerator to remind us of what we were working towards.  These two kids, however, did not learn they were being adopted until we were on Russian soil.  They had no time to think about it, dream about it or even imagine who we were.  We were strangers taking them to a strange new country to live.

We were blessed that our two seemed to attach to us fairly quickly…calling us Mama and Papa and freely giving hugs, etc.  Tania still is not too attached to Dennis, my husband, but she had a lot of bad things happen to her in Russia at the hands of several men.  She is going to counseling to learn how to deal with men.

Here is an article I wrote on how to help your children attach to you more quickly…

http://ezinearticles.com/?Helping-Your-Adopted-Child-to-Attach-to-You&id=738569 

These are all things we did try to work on and I felt they did help.

Deborah Mumm, The Adoption Coach, www.everythingforadoption.com

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