Facing Difficulties with Adopted Kids

Adopting Older Kids


Children who were abused, removed from a family or and orphanage they knew, and then adopted into a strange home do often have difficulty adjusting. Should we blame them? In my opinion, it has nothing to do with international adoption. It has to do with the struggles these kids endured. I have seen this happen with children who were abused here in the States and then adopted out of the foster care system. It really bothers me that people say things like “I was so close to sending her back to Russia” like she is an inanimate object. These parents were looking for a story book ending. Raising children, adopted or not, is challenging. It does not matter how you choose to build a family, you need to be prepared for anything. Adopting an older child out of an orphanage who was abused will definitely have risks. No person should be able to adopt such a child if they are not aware of the risks and prepared to manage them once they appear. This is just my opinion.

What do you think? Should more educational programs be available for prospective adoptive parents?

Deborah Mumm, The Adoption Coach
Everything for Adoption

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