How to Help New Adoptive Parents


So you know someone who has just adopted a child. They need to learn how to adjust to this child, to learn about the true personality of this child. The child needs to become attached to this new family.  It doesn’t happen immediately, even though it may appear it has. There are things you can do to help this family through this transition period.

During the transition, family and friends may feel a little left out. Grandparents, especially, may not be able to spend as much time with their new grandchild or dote on them as much as they would like. This is temporary. Remember: the goal is for the new child to securely attach to their parents. Once that happens, then you will be able to see them, take them on outings, babysit, etc. to your heart’s content! Until then, visits will need to be short.

If you want to help the new parents there are many things you can do:

· Make meals, package them in freezer containers, and deliver them to the new family

· Go grocery shopping and run errands

· Offer to clean the house, do the laundry, wash the car, mow the lawn, etc.

· Help address and stuff envelopes to mail out homecoming announcements.

· Be the contact person to share news and updates with other family and friends.

Be there for them if they need to talk or need support. It is an exciting time but usually overwhelming to both the child and the new family.

Deborah Mumm, The Adoption Coach

Everything for Adoption

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