Posts Tagged ‘International Adoption’

Letter to Mrs. Obama about Russian Adoptions


This is worth sharing…..A letter from an adoptive mother,Stacey DiBlasi Seeley‘s  on the Russian adoption ban

A few days ago thousands of Russian citizens marched in protest of their government’s new legislation banning adoptions to American families. There are more than 700,000 orphans in Russia; 120,000 of those eligible for adoption. Many of those children have families here in the United States wanting desperately to bring them home. I watched in amazement as these Russian individuals braved the cold weather and possible arrest to make a point. And then I looked at my son, who just six months ago lived in a Russian orphanage and thought: “Where is the fight on our side?” And so I reach out, the only way I know how and make an appeal to a mother’s heart:

Dear Mrs. Obama,

I am writing you today to ask for help with a concern that weighs so heavily on my heart. As I am sure you are aware, Russian President Vladimir Putin has signed a law that essentially ends inter country adoption between the United States and Russia. I could give you thousands of reasons why that legislation is cruel and unjust but instead I will give you just one: my child’s eyes.

I met my son Aleksandr at the age of 10 months in February of last year. I knew from the moment his eyes looked into mine, that he was indeed the child of my heart. This was not because his eyes sparkled with love and excitement but rather because they looked so uncertain. “Who are you?” those blue eyes said to me. And my soul answered: I am your mother. While other mother’s can look into their child’s eyes for the first time and say, “Welcome to the world Little One,” I understood that my little one already knew too much of this world’s chilling cruelty and I promised then and there to give him all the love and protection that a mother can give.

On August 4, 2012 we brought Aleks home at 15 months of age. He was quickly diagnosed as failure to thrive and he has global developmental delays but through amazing programs available through the state of Virginia and the excellent medical care and support of our military community, Aleks is flourishing and “catching up” to others in his age group! He loves pigs and horses, coconut yogurt and “Here Comes the Sun” by the Beatles. He leans in to give the sweetest kisses to his Momma and Daddy and the twinkle in his eyes (that was absent when we met him) lights up my world. I never imagined that my husband and I would have to travel halfway across the world three times to find our son. But I would do it again and again.

My family is a success story and a blessing thanks to cooperation between this great nation and Russia. But right now, mothers here in this country cry desperately because they are losing their child due to this legislation. A child who has the chance to know a mother’s love will be condemned to life in a less than adequate orphanage where he or she will not ever develop a sense of self worth or know the love of family. What if that was my son? Oh God, I don’t know how I would ever rest if my child were kept from me in those circumstances. And that is why I am writing to you today.

Please, Mrs. Obama, I beg you to speak with your husband on behalf of all the mothers stuck in this limbo, those who have officially started the adoption process, who have held their babies in their arms or have stared deep into the eyes of their child a half a world away. We respectfully ask that President Obama and Vice President Biden appeal to Mr. Putin from a humanitarian stand point and fight for the child’s right to be able to continue to know the mother’s love they had a glimpse of on that first meeting. We hope and pray for an agreement that allows the families who have already petitioned to adopt their child in Russia to be united as a family. What do we lose in trying?

Shared by…Deborah Mumm, The Adoption Coach, parent of 5 great kids- 2 of which were adopted from Russia. Everything for Adoption


Learn about International Adoption


Do you know someone who wants to learn about the adventures of adoption?  Which countries have available children?  How much does it cost?  How long does it take?

Bob & Carol Murdock, from Int’l Family Services will do live conference calls to help answer these questions…plus the many more you may have.

Here is a link for more information—

Adventures into Adoption Teleconference Calls

Have a great day!


Deborah Mumm, The Adoption Coach

Everything for Adoption

November is National Adoption Month

How did November become the Adoption Month?

The first major effort to promote awareness of the need for adoptive families for children in the foster care system occurred in Massachusetts. In 1976, then-Governor Mike Dukakis proclaimed Adoption Week and the idea grew in popularity and spread throughout the nation. President Gerald Ford made the first National Adoption Week proclamation, and in 1990, the week was expanded to a month due to the number of states participating and the number of events.

During the month, states, communities, public and private organizations, businesses, families, and individuals celebrate adoption as a positive way to build families. Across the nation, activities and observances such as recognition dinners, public awareness and recruitment campaigns, and special events spotlight the needs of children who need permanent families. It also includes National Adoption Day, traditionally a Saturday, which is observed in courthouses across the nation as thousands of adoptions are finalized simultaneously.

National Adoption Day is a national day of celebration of adoptive families and an opportunity for courts to open their doors and finalize the adoptions of children from foster care. Since 2000, more than 35,000 children have had their adoptions finalized on National Adoption Day.

On November 19, 2011, families, adoption advocates, policymakers, judges and volunteers will come together and celebrate adoption in communities large and small all across the nation.

Even though our two children from Russia were adopted in July, we had them baptized on Nov. 19th, so it was still a very special day.

With millions of children waiting for people to step up and adopt them so they can have a family, it is great for adoption awareness…as it is easy to get so wrapped up in daily life to forget the sad lives children are living around the world.

Deborah Mumm (for Adoption information)

Should International Adoptions be Encouraged?

The debate over International Adoption is a passionate one. Some countries believe their children should stay in the country of their heritage. Supporters of adoption argue that the well-being of the child should come first. Living in a loving permanent home is far better than living a life in an orphanage or foster care that are under-resourced.

In 2004, the year we adopted our two from Russia, the number of foreign children adopted by US families was 22,990. In 2009, the number was only 12,753. Why the big drop in adoptions?
1) The number of countries allowing international adoptions has dropped.
2) Many countries have stiffened up the requirements and paperwork to adopt, making it more difficult.
3) The economy has made the high expenses involved in an adoption too difficult for families to afford.

It is discouraging to think that over 6 million children wait in orphanages for a family of their own. Many have parents living in nearby towns, too poor to feed them…hence, they are not adoptable. These children live a life with no options, because a biological parent refuses for their child to be adopted…but will not care for that child themselves. We saw a lot of that in Russia. Sad.

So…should Int’l Adoption be encouraged?

Deborah Mumm, The Adoption Coach
Everything for Adoption

What is your opinion on this video?

I finished ‘tweeking’ my Adoption Highway video…to encourage people to use my system to make International Adoption easier & less costly.

What do you think of it?


When I was 5—

Alex, adopted from Russia at age 5, will constantly refer to things that happened when he was small as “When I was 5”.  Example: “When I was 5 I didn’t like to wear my seat belt.”  However, when he was 5 in Russia he never had to wear a seat belt for 2 reasons…1-they don’t wear seat belts in Russia (they laughed at us when we struggled to put them on) and 2-Alex had never been in a car until we brought him home to the US.

“When I was 5 I didn’t like this kind of food.”   He probably didn’t have that food in Russia.

Actually, Alex’s life in America began at age 5.  His life with a family, friends, food, activities, etc., all began at age 5.  So we smile when we hear him say to his friends, “When I was 5….”  It’s where it all  began for him.  Before 5 was a confusing time, with not much order or sense to him.  Living in an orphanage he must have felt a little confused.

I know my heart almost broke when he asked me one day why we didn’t come to get him sooner.  He said, “Mom, I was waiting and waiting for you.”  How sad that a little boy should have to wonder where his Mom is and why she isn’t there for him.

How many millions of children are right now wishing their mom or dad would come and get them…take them out of that orphanage and bring them home?  Their lives would also change forever…just like Alex’s did.  When he was 5.

Deborah Mumm, The Adoption Coach

Everything for Adoption

Medical Advice for Adoptive Parents?

I found this news story on YouTube discussing the International Adoption Clinics and why they are important. This was a news story about the Medical University of South Carolina. Now understand that this is just one facility of many across the country that offer this service. I wanted to post it here so that you could get a feel as to what really happens during this stage of the adoption.

hope this helps in easing your decision to accept your referral and it will aide in getting the right child with the right family. Remember, this is an exciting time but also take in consideration, it will be the hardest decision you will have to make in your life. Do not take it lightly.

Here’s to your adoption success!

I hope this helps!

Deborah Mumm, The Adoption Coach