Posts Tagged ‘orphan’

Letter to Mrs. Obama about Russian Adoptions


This is worth sharing…..A letter from an adoptive mother,Stacey DiBlasi Seeley‘s  on the Russian adoption ban

A few days ago thousands of Russian citizens marched in protest of their government’s new legislation banning adoptions to American families. There are more than 700,000 orphans in Russia; 120,000 of those eligible for adoption. Many of those children have families here in the United States wanting desperately to bring them home. I watched in amazement as these Russian individuals braved the cold weather and possible arrest to make a point. And then I looked at my son, who just six months ago lived in a Russian orphanage and thought: “Where is the fight on our side?” And so I reach out, the only way I know how and make an appeal to a mother’s heart:

Dear Mrs. Obama,

I am writing you today to ask for help with a concern that weighs so heavily on my heart. As I am sure you are aware, Russian President Vladimir Putin has signed a law that essentially ends inter country adoption between the United States and Russia. I could give you thousands of reasons why that legislation is cruel and unjust but instead I will give you just one: my child’s eyes.

I met my son Aleksandr at the age of 10 months in February of last year. I knew from the moment his eyes looked into mine, that he was indeed the child of my heart. This was not because his eyes sparkled with love and excitement but rather because they looked so uncertain. “Who are you?” those blue eyes said to me. And my soul answered: I am your mother. While other mother’s can look into their child’s eyes for the first time and say, “Welcome to the world Little One,” I understood that my little one already knew too much of this world’s chilling cruelty and I promised then and there to give him all the love and protection that a mother can give.

On August 4, 2012 we brought Aleks home at 15 months of age. He was quickly diagnosed as failure to thrive and he has global developmental delays but through amazing programs available through the state of Virginia and the excellent medical care and support of our military community, Aleks is flourishing and “catching up” to others in his age group! He loves pigs and horses, coconut yogurt and “Here Comes the Sun” by the Beatles. He leans in to give the sweetest kisses to his Momma and Daddy and the twinkle in his eyes (that was absent when we met him) lights up my world. I never imagined that my husband and I would have to travel halfway across the world three times to find our son. But I would do it again and again.

My family is a success story and a blessing thanks to cooperation between this great nation and Russia. But right now, mothers here in this country cry desperately because they are losing their child due to this legislation. A child who has the chance to know a mother’s love will be condemned to life in a less than adequate orphanage where he or she will not ever develop a sense of self worth or know the love of family. What if that was my son? Oh God, I don’t know how I would ever rest if my child were kept from me in those circumstances. And that is why I am writing to you today.

Please, Mrs. Obama, I beg you to speak with your husband on behalf of all the mothers stuck in this limbo, those who have officially started the adoption process, who have held their babies in their arms or have stared deep into the eyes of their child a half a world away. We respectfully ask that President Obama and Vice President Biden appeal to Mr. Putin from a humanitarian stand point and fight for the child’s right to be able to continue to know the mother’s love they had a glimpse of on that first meeting. We hope and pray for an agreement that allows the families who have already petitioned to adopt their child in Russia to be united as a family. What do we lose in trying?

Shared by…Deborah Mumm, The Adoption Coach, parent of 5 great kids- 2 of which were adopted from Russia. Everything for Adoption


Alex’s 4th birthday–but he is 10!

Our son, Alex, turns 10 tomorrow. It is only the 4th birthday he has celebrated however since he was adopted from Russia four years ago. I remember the first time he was given a present. He just sat and looked at it. He had no idea what this box wrapped in paper was. We had to show him how to rip the paper off to find the gift underneath. He was a quick learner and soon had all his presents ripped open.
His first birthday, when he turned 6, was a total blur to him. He had no expectations and no understanding of all the attention he was getting. He did like it however. The next year, he was like, “Wow! We get to do this again?” Still expectations were low…kind of nice when a simple cake and a few presents is plenty.
Well, now it is the 4th time he has been through this…plus, he’s been to many other parties for people. He has been questioning us all week if we went shopping for him yet. He still gets upset if I say I bought a Baby Wet & Spit for him! No way!!
We will be taking 10 boys to the Y to swim and play…eat cake, drink punch and of course, open presents. He is on Cloud Nine and is counting the minutes until the party.
He is thrilled Kellen is coming in for his birthday. (Actually Spring Break at college starts today…but he thinks Kellen is coming in for him, mostly!)

I am sure we’ll all have a great day watching Alex revel in all the attention. He is a great kid and deserves a day just for him! We just remember all the kids in orphanages who never celebrate birthdays or go to parties…and are happy that Alex’s life has changed for the better!

Happy Birthday Alex!

Deborah Mumm, The Adoption Coach



What is your opinion on this video?

I finished ‘tweeking’ my Adoption Highway video…to encourage people to use my system to make International Adoption easier & less costly.

What do you think of it?


Want to help some orphans? Try Operation Christmas Child!

Operation Christmas Child

Operation Christmas Child

Our church in Gurnee, IL does Operation Christmas Child each fall.  We collected almost 300 shoe boxes this past year and I’m sure it’ll be a lot more this year.  Each shoe box goes to a poor, needy child…many of them orphans.  Maybe you should consider getting your church or school involved in this worthwhile project.  Here is a great little video of how it impacted one little orphaned girl from Russia.

Watch this now & see how you can help…..

 Operation Christmas Child

 Deborah Mumm, The Adoption Coach....  

It’s a Small World After All—

It was amazing for me to hear….

Our daughter, Tania, had just returned from a 2 week camping trip in WI.  She had a great time.  She confided in me that she had met another girl from Russia while there.  I had commented I thought that was pretty cool.  She then told me even more.  As the girls spoke about Russia, they both realized they had been adopted from there…and that they actually were even from the same orphanage in Komsomolsk, Russia!

While I thought this was absolutely amazing…that these girls would learn they were from the same orphanage in Far Eastern Russia, they both just went on with their camping adventure like it was a normal, everyday occurance.

I guess, as the adults who lived through an International Adoption, and one that is from such a faraway country, I found it amazing that these two girls would meet again in a small tent in a Wisconsin campground several years after living in an orphanage together.  (They didn’t know each other well in the orphanage.)  I know how difficult the trip was and how we struggled to get there and home each time.  Kids however, just follow along and do what kids do when traveling.  It’s not stressful for them…so Tania had no idea how unusual it was to meet someone from her orphanage while camping! 

But….I had to sit back in awe…it really is a SMALL world after all….

Deborah Mumm, The Adoption Coach….

Just Imagine–Adopting from Russia « Adoption Highway

Just Imagine–Adopting from Russia « Adoption Highway

Just Imagine–Adopting from Russia

Here is an article I wrote about what it is like to adopt from Russia.

Just imagine that you decide you’d like to help a child, not just any child, but a child with no family and no hope for a decent future.  You know this is a huge commitment and will change everyone in your family, your friends and ultimately will change your life forever.  You are willing to take on this mission even though you are scared of the unknown and what you are about to undertake.

Imagine,  somewhere in Russia, is a child rocking himself to sleep each night wondering what it would be like to have someone who could rock him, to comfort him when he was scared or hurt, someone to wipe his tears and tell him he was going to be ok.  Imagine how it feels to be hungry so often you no longer understand what it means when your tummy growls.  Imagine never leaving the orphanage to see the rest of the world.  No car rides, no trips to the park, no McDonalds, and no birthday parties.  Worst of all, imagine no hugs and kisses, no trips to Grandma, and no one to answer your cries.  Imagine an orphanage with large silent hallways.  Orphanages filled with children, but no crying?  They have learned that crying gets no response, and soon they no longer know how to cry.

Imagine wanting to adopt one of these children, but you must fill out endless forms, sometimes repeatedly.  You must have physicals, finger-printing, police checks, home studies and then fill out more paperwork.  Then this paperwork must be notarized in triplicate, apostilled (proof of notary), and sent to various people on demand.  Imagine doing these papers over several times to the point that Federal Tax forms look more appealing than adoption paperwork.Imagine getting the call that your paperwork has finally been seen by someone from Russia and you can finally travel to meet your child!  (This happened to me while I was shopping in Wal-Mart and I burst into tears!) 

Imagine having one week to make airline arrangements, child care arrangements, etc. to travel across the world to meet your child.   You frantically make arrangements and before you know it you are traveling to Russia.  Imagine traveling and traveling…trains, planes & automobiles of traveling.  30 hours of traveling to meet your child.Now imagine you are finally sent to a small green room in this old Russian orphanage where you wait for someone to bring in your child.  You begin to wonder why you are there.  Why are you doing all this, to the point of exhaustion?  You have done a mountain of paperwork, paid more money than you had ever planned on and traveled to a part of the world that is full of poverty and despair. 

But suddenly, the door opens and a large Russian woman walks in with a small, thin little boy holding her hand. He is smaller than your birth son was at 3.  He has the little face that has been hanging on your refrigerator for the past six months.  She takes him to you and tells him, “This is your Mama.”  You take him in your arms and hug him tight.  You notice your husband has tears in his eyes as he picks up this very small 5 yr. old.  At that moment you know this little guy is your son.  You know you are changing his life forever. 

He now has hope for a good life, an education, better health and a forever family to love him and care for him.  All the frustrations you have experienced to this point have melted away as this little guy hugs his Papa’s neck and giggles.  You play outside with him and his friends in the orphanage.  They hug you and call you Mama and Papa.  Most of them will never know what a real Mama and Papa are, though.  You know you have to do all this traveling again in a few months, but this time to bring him home to your family and friends.  You will discover that not only have you changed his life for the better you have taught an important lesson on caring to all your family and friends.If you experience all this then you will be able to imagine what it is like to adopt a child from Russia. 

Debbie Mumm lives in Grayslake, IL with her husband and 5 children, two of which were adopted from Russia in 2004.  She is an adoption coach with a local adoption support group as well as an online group.  Claim a FREE report at to see how you can help orphaned children.